I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about unschooling. Here's what I've decided (for myself, not others necessarily) - we are still unschoolers. We're just taking a different route than we have for the past 12 years. Instead of unschooling at home, we're unschooling with other familes, still choosing our own paths, being offered new friends, new things to discover, new things to learn.
When we were in California we tried just about every karate school in town looking for a good fit for Robin, who is very interested in karate and anything Japanese. We finally found a good fit for him - in his unschooling school. He has one teacher there working one on one with him teaching him Japanese, another teacher who is as excited about Karate as Robin is (and taught him one on one today - Robin was thrilled with the personal attention), and more opportunities than I've ever been able to give him. He begs everyday to be allowed to stay at school, even when the teachers are packing up to go home. I'm constantly reminding him that he'll be back the next day, it's not leaving him.
Storey has the freedom to call and ask me to pick her up early (which I do), sleep in and go late (or not at all, which has happened - although she said that she wished she'd gone anyway since she really loves being there), teachers who read to her, play math games with her, bead with her, and even giver her homework when she feels like doing some (she loves math homework).
I can go and hang out at the school anytime I choose to (and I did today for about an hour, and I'll be there again on Thursday for about 3 hours), I've sat at the art table and made paper stars and been asked by other kids to show them how and ended up staying for another few hours because we were having so much fun.
So we ARE unschooling, no one is being forced to sit and learn, everyone is given the freedom and to learn in their own time (even though it means a lot of parents have to work through their fears about kids not reading at certain ages, etc...).
So I've been back and forth about this unschooling thing and while I'm sure that Sandra Dodd wouldn't agree with me, I still consider us unschoolers (and I still have my "Free Your Mind - Unschool" bumper sticker on my car right next to the one that says "Village Free School").